Blog Articles
Additional resources written by our PCS therapists.
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TRANSpired
As a 28 year old non-binary Trans masculine individual who has gone through multiple self-evaluation periods, I’ve come to the conclusion, deep down we are all beings looking to grow strongly and beautifully. It is partially our environment that either hinders or helps us do so – PCS has provided… -
A Need for Unity and Connection
Series Three: Blog Thirty “We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” —J.K. Rowling, (Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire) There are forces in life that divide and separate. Race, class, religion, income inequality and many other designations categorize and label people… -
Navigating Social Media as a Parent
Social media has changed the way we communicate, socialize, obtain information, and shape our opinions about the world, others, and ourselves and while this is very much a profound influence on our lives, many of us haven’t figured out how to effectively parent our children in relationship to it. Here… -
Dealing with the Rendezvous of Painful Memories
Series Three: Blog Twenty-Nine “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get”—Forrest Gump Pain and addiction can meet up like a blind date for an addict. On any given day, physical and emotional pain can dominate. When they do it is intense. Addicts are… -
A Healing Philosophy of the Polygraph
. Series Three: Blog Twenty-Eight During the early part of the 20th century a number of individuals intersected with separate research development that aided the creation of the first polygraph used in 1921. It has evolved and has been modified many times to its present use in deception detection. Today… -
Confessions and Memories
Series Three: Blog Twenty-Seven “What matters in life is not what happens to you but what you remember and how you remember it.” ― Gabriel Garcia Marquez I am sitting in front of the home I grew up in my hometown. Memories flood my mind like a rolodex that won’t… -
“I’ve Already Done My Work”
Series Three: Blog Twenty-Five When I was a 9th grade boy I got a summer job detasseling corn. Detasseling corn is removing the immature pollen—the tassel—from the tops of the corn and placing it on the ground. It is a form of pollination control, employed to cross-breed two varieties of… -
Othering
Series Three: Blog Twenty-Five “No one leaves home unless home is the mouth of a shark” Sigler was from Detroit. He came to Bethany, Oklahoma to attend a small fundamental religious school to appease his grandma who wanted him to receive a religious education. I attended the same school and… -
Amends
Series Three: Blog Twenty-Four Crisis in the world is pandemic. COVID, despotic tyrants uprooting countries, famine, and global warming have created fear and uncertainty. People mistrust news that is presented in the media. Is it fake news or is it a force trying to undermine the reality of what is… -
Objectification
Series Three: Blog Twenty-Two Objectification of women is a social issue in our country. It has been a major contribution to eating problems that many women in our society suffer. It is multidimensional and pervasive across race, gender, and class. This predicament has been seeded in our culture for a… -
Working Through the Unbearable
Series Three: Blog Twenty-One The world we live is scary and uncertain. Chaos and adversity is a common experience for many. Addicts create their own pandemonium. Some addicts don’t feel comfortable without turmoil and bedlam. Some people are caretakers and enablers. They make it their mission to clean up the… -
Healing from A Toxic Environment
Series Three: Blog I grew up in a cult. It was hurtful It was overwhelming and dominating. It was truly a mind-fuck. There was always a game being played. The goal was to keep you from figuring it out. If you got close to experiencing reality, there was always a… -
Community is Connection that Creates Healing
Series Three: Blog 20 Community is critical to healing in our world. Carmelite Catholic priest St. John of the Cross once wrote that “ a virtuous soul that is alone is like a lone burning coal that will soon become cold.” Life force depends upon a connection to other life…. -
Superhuman Therapists
Family, friends, and strangers often ask me what it’s like being a therapist. It is important to note: I just got here, so I may not be the best person to ask at this point. I completed my Doctorate in Psychology a few months ago, and I’m now completing a… -
Things that Do and Don’t Matter
Series Three: Blog Eighteen I grew up in a family of 9 children. Mom and Dad were blue collar workers. My dad worked at a factory, mowed yards and pumped gas at a service station. My mom cleaned houses, business offices and a church. Covering the financial needs for 9… -
One Psychologist’s Challenge to Walk the Walk
Just like my clients, I encounter challenges in managing my relationships with myself and others in healthy ways. Because of the work I do, I am surrounded by information and ideas to help me live my life and connect with others in a healthier way. In order to be congruent… -
Handwritten Notes Tucked Away in the Travel Luggage
Series Three: Blog Seventeen One of my addict clients told me that when he travels his partner will pack a hidden handwritten note for him to find and read when he gets to his destination. Here are a few that I have gathered over the years. Depersonalize and detach from… -
Mementos, Symbols, and Keepsakes
Series Three: Blog Sixteen When I was a kid my dad carried a buckeye with him in the pocket of his work pants for good luck. A friend at church always had a rabbit’s foot in his pocket for the same reason. The parents of one of my friends at… -
Abandoned and Afraid
Series Three: Blog Fifteen Most addicts fear abandonment. Triggered by mistaken beliefs, addicts will cajole, lie and do most anything to avoid the experience of desertion. Addicts think if you know what I know about me you will reject me. There is a host of other mistaken beliefs like “I… -
Black and White choices in the Gray Zone of Recovery Living
Series Three: Blog Fourteen I have practiced recovery from addiction through the 12-steps for 32 years. I have worked through each step ten different times. I utilize the steps every day of my life. That said, I know that recovery is not uniform. Some people I know who began recovery…
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