Blog Articles
Additional resources written by our PCS therapists.
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Partner Sexual Betrayal
When a partner or spouse in a relationship learns that the person whom they have trusted has been unfaithful to them, the pain of that discovery can be incredibly intense, leaving the person with an overwhelming sense of betrayal. Betrayal as an Attachment Trauma Betrayal in a committed relationship includes… -
No Bad Parts
Internal Family Systems (IFS) reflects our outer world to our inner world. Its takes our relationships in real life and mirrors them to the relationships in our head. IFS examines dynamics in the family setting and relates them to how relationships function within us. What do I mean by our… -
After
I recently purchased a vintage watercolor painting that I found attractive and repelling, simple and complex, familiar yet to be honest a little bit haunting. What more could you ask from a piece of art? It was dated 3-12-1950 and the title of it was written in a beautiful hand-penciled… -
Beginning
I hate writing blogs. Well, hate is a strong word — but still. I stare at the screen, waiting for my muse, type a word, delete a word, have a thought, role my eyes. Sigh. Then, I start typing, sometimes without direction and then it has begun. Before long…well, you… -
What Makes You Hard to Live with?
There is this powerful rut that happens when we plant ourselves in mud thinking if the person across from me would just get a clue, fix their problems, and stop acting the way they act, my life would be so much better. It’s the human response and hard to avoid…. -
Filth
“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.” – James Baldwin I have read this quote over and over again. James Baldwin… -
Horses: a Bridge to Healing?
The road to healing can be long and winding with many obstacles. Sometimes we need a bridge… It was a warm March afternoon as I stood with a father as we watched his children greet the horses in my arena. After a few months of sessions the boys invited him… -
The Platinum Rule of Relationships
“How could she not love that – I put so much thought/time into making her birthday special!” Many many years ago when I was in the first few years of my 1st marriage I planned what I was sure to be the best birthday party ever for my wife. It… -
Tire Tracks
Series Three: Blog Alex had been cheating on Alice from day one. Secretly, he hired strippers at his bachelor party and never made it through his honeymoon without cheating with someone he met at the pool of the resort where he and Alice stayed during the week after the wedding…. -
Who’s My Mother? Developing Self Parenting Skills
Series Three: Blog Ninety-Six Mothers are a powerful influence in the emotional development of every child. The emotional stress and strain that a mother engages while the child is in utero impacts emotional development significantly. Environmentally, children absorb the emotional experiences of their parents. A child depends upon mother for… -
AI and Mental Health Therapy: A Look Into the Future
The following is, ironically, adapted from a dialogue with Open AI Chat GPT, an AI-powered Chatbot. The integration of Artificial Intelligence (AI) in therapy services has the potential to improve the way mental health services are delivered and received. Here, we will explore the ways AI could impact mental health… -
Colors, Music, and the Importance of Emotions
Simply put, from just 3 colors we get all colors; from just 7 notes, we get all the music; from just 6 emotions, we get all the different feelings. Isn’t interesting how a vast variety of things can result from the combinations of just a few elements? And how can… -
The Illusion of a Safety Net
Series Three: Blog Ninety-Five The Flying Wallendas are the most celebrated tight rope act in the world. The Wallenda family has been performing tight rope acts for over 200 years. They were the first to walk a tightrope across the Grand Canyon and the Niagara Falls. Tino Wallenda stated that… -
Desperation—Without it There’s No Change
Series Three: Blog Ninety-Four A calling is an inside force to be, create or achieve a life experience that has not been realized. It is an exploit that cultivates bliss. Even once realized, there is a conscious enlightenment that you are doing what creates deep satisfaction within your soul. Callings… -
Recovery Reflections
Series Three: Blog Ninety-Three Being in recovery from addiction for 32 years and listening to addicts share their journey of recovery has led to interesting observations and, for me, deeper truths about the world we live in. Today’s blog is about this reflection. You might contemplate your own musings about… -
It’s OK to be Hurting
A few months back, I experienced one of my prouder moments as a therapist/mom when sitting in our living room, my then 6-month-old began to cry. My then 2 ½ year old immediately dropped what she was doing and went over to console him, or so I thought. As if… -
“Being There” for Others
There is currently much going on in my life, not more or less than others, but enough to preoccupy me and distract from this writing. This, along with friends who are struggling, led me to contemplate how I have shown up for and in turn how I have felt supported… -
How Do I Say I Love You When I Feel Like Running Away
Series Three: Blog Ninety-Two Addictive behavior always involves betrayal. You say you will do one thing, but your good intent is torpedoed with destructive acting out behavior. There is a pall of gloom that hovers around those who were counting on you to be true to your word. Everyone is… -
The PCS Perspective Special Edition
A Look Inside the PCS Intensive Treatment Program and Why We Do What We Do Welcome to PCS! This issue was born from the realization we perhaps had never provided an overall glimpse into the PCS Intensive Treatment Program (ITP). The PCS Individual Intensive Program is an intensive, trauma-focused program… -
Comparison
Series Three: Blog Ninety-One Caitlin Clark is a guard for the Iowa Hawkeyes women’s basketball team. This season as a sophomore she is scoring an average of almost 27 points per game, 7+ rebounds, 7+ assists and making nearly 1/2 of all the shots she takes. She is the most…
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