Blog Articles
Additional resources written by our PCS therapists.
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What Is a “Psychoeducational Evaluation” and Should My Child Have One?
If your child is struggling at school with learning, you may be concerned about whether he or she might have a learning disorder, such as a reading disability/dyslexia, math disability, or written expression disability. Or, you may wonder if there might be an attentional deficit (e.g., ADHD), or if your… -
Scoreboard Champions Vs. Heart Champions
VELVET STEELE Scoreboard Champions vs. Heart Champions By KEN WELLS, LPC “Phony plays for a while but genuine plays for a lifetime” Ed Wade- former Phillies GM It was a spring Friday in late April, 2001. It was a day I don’t think I will ever forget! My son… -
Rule Breakers
VELVET STEELE Rule Breakers By KEN WELLS, LPC “Learn and obey the rules very well, so you will know how to break them properly—“ The Dalai Lama Danny Almonte was the talk of the Bronx during the summer of 2001. With his high leg kick and a fastball… -
Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League
VELVET STEELE Everything I Needed to Know About Recovery—I first Had the Opportunity to Learn in Little League By KEN WELLS, LPC Life is rooted in community which is about bonding in relationships. Bonding is strongest within communities where values are forged, convictions are cemented and care for one another… -
Turbulent Personality Traits
Turbulent Personality Traits include: Optimistic Hard working Goal oriented A leader A contagious spirit that gets others excited and invested in joint projects Likely the thought of a “turbulent” personality didn’t inspire the words of strength written above. People with turbulent traits have a number of strengths, perhaps so many… -
Mother Guilt/Mother Shame: Stop the Madness
On a weekly basis, I meet with women in my therapy practice who feel like they are not good moms. When I explore this with them, I find that in contrast to their feelings of failure, they are doing a really good job. Their children are thriving: They do well… -
Destiny – A Manifesto for All
VELVET STEELE Destiny—A Manifesto for All By KEN WELLS, LPC If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. – Henry David Thoreau It was an August evening over… -
Spiritual in the Ordinary
Spirituality is often thought of as something special or mystical. This depends on one’s interpretations, beliefs and faith as well. However spirituality is also found in the ordinary. A different view of Spirituality can be thought of as what the world or life is trying to teach us (depending on… -
Overview and Presentations of Sexual Addiction
In the human experience, sexual expression takes a myriad of forms, limited only by the bounds of imagination. As the field of human sexuality progresses, more and more sexual behaviours have been catalogued and acknowledged as normal variants. As myriad as the range of sexual behaviours are the various manifestations… -
8 Tips to Manage Stress Following a Trauma or Natural disaster
Sometimes when challenging things happen, there is something explicit you can do to alleviate the problem. You get a nail in your tire? Patch it. There is a miscommunication with your spouse? Talk it out. You do poorly on a test? Study harder next time. You feel lonely? Initiate with… -
My Child Saw Pornography
Annmarie Lange discusses the growing challenge many parents face in her article “My Child Saw Pornography, What Should I Do?“ More and more young children are using the internet unsupervised. Lack of supervision leads to accidental exposure and misconceptions of love. Lange offers several great tips and considerations if you… -
A Parable of Recovery
I have sat in many sessions with clients at PCS who express their reluctance to step outside their typical zone of comfort. They may even be sitting in the middle of an extensive and extended treatment process (the PCS Intensive) with others and seemingly having strong insights and meaningful awareness… -
Heart of Gratitude
Cultivating a heart of gratitude means having an appreciation for life in the present moment. It’s counting our blessings, noticing simple pleasures, and acknowledging the abundance already here. When we are truly thankful for what we already have and content with what is – this is enough. We tend to… -
Nature Connection
Nature has always felt like home for me, especially in the more wild parts of world. I embrace the mysterious, dark, curious, awe-inspiring, open, dense, and spiritually enveloped aspects of nature. In the wilderness, I am in contact with the same aspects found in myself—the wilderness of the soul. I… -
Reflecting on the Dream
All of us are probably aware of Dr. Martin Luther King’s speech, “I have a dream.” When I listen to that, it speaks to a passion in me in terms of justice and civil rights. That passion continues in terms of PCS outreach beyond the borders of our individual, couples, and… -
Thriving Through Human Connection
Start thriving through human connection. As humans, we are programmed to seek and be fulfilled by connection. Whether through God, a higher power, or something bigger than ourselves, we desire deep connection within ourselves and with others. Our basic needs for survival are food, water, shelter, and sleep. As long… -
Are You Listening?
Over a two week period, my wife and three of my children expressed frustration with number of questions I was asking. The expressions included all the non-verbals: eye rolls, sighs, and wagging heads. Finally, after a particularly aggravating evening of late night homework, my youngest erupted, “Stop! Asking! Questions!” I… -
Yesterday Ended Last Night
VELVET STEELE Yesterday Ended Last Night By KEN WELLS, LPC “It doesn’t matter how much milk you spill as long as you don’t kill the cow” I suppose of all the lessons I have to deal with in life, getting over what I cannot control has been one of the toughest…. -
Velvet Steel
VELVET STEELE By KEN WELLS, LPC “Nobody ever beat themselves up to a better place” As a parent of kids who played Little League baseball, I experienced the importance of being gentle with the kids who played the game. I watched kids cry when they struck out and… -
The Prima Donna Makeover
VELVET STEELE The Prima Donna Makeover By KEN WELLS, LPC “I’m on a Drug. It’s called Charlie Sheen”—Charlie Sheen “Everything I ever needed to know about recovery from addiction began with a Little League type experience”—Ken Wells There is a certain mark of hubris which characterizes life in addiction. In many…
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