Series Two: Blog Eighty-Seven
“The great thing about the horizon of infinity is that there is no limit to how amazing you can become.” – Robert Thurman
You can live sober. You can create whatever you want to be or however you want to live. Just because something is not handed to you out of the blue does not mean it cannot be yours. Like the phoenix who rose from the ashes to live again, you can rise from the ashes of addict failure and thrive again.
How? You will need to act upon the vision of destiny that you see yourself becoming. If you brush away the dust and dirt of disappointment that comes from groveling in addictive behavior, you will see the dream of living calm, collected and empowered. You will see yourself capable of managing the anxiety and stress of life without depending upon your addictive behavior or substance to get you through. There is always a wish or a vision of something better. When you are struggling with failure to live sober, it feels impossible to embrace anything but feelings of doom, devastation, and resignation. You feel dominated by failure. You tell yourself that sobriety is for someone else. However, it is possible to act your way into different thinking and eventually create different feelings about yourself and the world around you.
When you feel so crappy about where you are in life, you believe you need something to fix the way you think about yourself. Your destiny hangs on the way you feel. People consider geographic moves, a new relationship, a new job or therapist, or medication. These moves are based on the spectacular. Out of the blue some place, someone or something will save you from yourself. These wishes are not reality. The answer to healing from addiction is to take the first step toward acting and living the way your heart tells you. You do this one step at a time regardless of how you feel about yourself. This is true for addict and non-addict alike. The first step for an addict may be one of surrender to inpatient treatment, again. It could be to make apology once again for hurting someone. It always means to ignore the voices that scream negative messages that you cannot be different.
You will need help. You will only seek the help by acting on the vision that your destiny calls you to be. Even when it seems so far away. The old adage “fake it till you make it” has value. Eventually, if you refuse to hang on to the old behavior you will act your way to a better feeling.
Support yourself with positive affirmation. This one exercise is often neglected, yet is magic to recovery. For me, after 31 years in recovery, there is no skill more powerful in becoming my destiny than the employment of affirmative thought. It will transform your life when you are dominated with failed behaviors, mediocrity, and a lack of confidence. There is no limit to how amazing you can become when you choose to act in ways that your destiny beckons regardless of how you feel. It is possible. Will you take the first step?
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