Series Three: Blog Seventy-Four
Clients who are addicts in recovery and in a relationship often tell me that it is very difficult to physically be at home and emotionally connected with their partner. Like Carole King wrote in the song “So Far Away”— “Holding you again could only do me good—How I wish I could—-But you’re so far away” —-. These lyrics are true for those who are emotionally distant but physically present.
Without emotional connection a couples relationship is reduced to mere roommates who become like ships passing in the night. There are many relationships stuck in this dynamic. Resentment, fear, emptiness, shame and loneliness dominate. For addicts who have eliminated the drug of choice from their life, filling the black hole inside through cultivating emotional intimacy is practically impossible because they have never known how to connect to and express their own feelings. Left with their own inadequacy, difficult topics that need to be engaged are avoided and the distance grows.
It builds a foundation for being physically together and emotionally connected.
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